I have dated four girls in the scene here. Considering how closely knit and incestuous the group is, it’s pretty likely that I am sexually connected to a good number of them. Four isn’t even a big number. There are girls in the community who have dated more than that and then dated their girlfriend’s girlfriend’s friends. The potential to catch something is high. I am surprised time and time again how the topic of sexual health never comes up. Do lesbians think they are immune to STDs? Do you know anyone who actually practices lesbian safe sex and what is lesbian safe sex anyway?
We take it for granted that our partners are safe. Yes, lesbians are in the least likely infection group for most sexually transmitted diseases ie HIV, Syphilis, Hepatitis and Gonorrhea to name a nasty few. But what about Thrush and Clamidya or Herpes? These infections, if untreated, can be potentially extremely damaging to your health. It is a sensitive topic, embarrassing even. All the more we should not shy away from discussing the dangers openly with our partners and even friends. How can you protect yourself if you can’t even talk about, even in a casual way?
Talking openly about your sex life does not have to mean you are boasting or bragging. It does not mean you are hanging out your dirty laundry or that you are gossiping. It doesn’t have to mean you are a player. In fact, talking about your sexual experiences, sharing your knowledge and letting your partner know who you have been with and how, helps protect them and all their potential lovers and it takes away the stigma of being a sufferer. Sufferers of STDS are often victims which can cause extreme emotional and psychological pain.
I know talking about sex is quite taboo, especially in Asia, especially for women. But come on ladies, we are sexually active beings. And being sexually active has its repercussions. I think a real discussion on lesbian sexual health is long overdue and if we can’t trust each other in social situations or be honest to each other then perhaps it’s time we took the conversation into a forum. Pillow talk is one thing, but how many of us feel comfortable enough to tell our partners what we like in bed? How many of us feel comfortable enough to ask our partners about their history? How many of us have ever asked?
If you have had more than three or even two sex partners, I reckon it’s time you asked the question. And it’s seriously time we all talked about it.
People tend to get very anxious about disclosing their sexual activities, talking about it. Its weird because its pretty much one of the most normal thing like “how do you like your tea” and “what kind of gravy you’d prefer with your chicken or steak”.
Maybe you can share some facts on these STDs and how they can be transmitted through lesbian sex and hopefully, people who might come across real life cases can share their views and experiences here.
respect!
finally. the lid has crack.
keep it coming.
education/awareness wins in the end!